I am about to be a grandma. I am very excited about it. I pray for my daughter-in-law and first grandchild; that they may be well and healthy. With this, I think about my grandma and grand aunt.
That is the reason why I am doing the best I can to be healthy. I like to live a long life. I am aiming to reach my 100th year. I know it‘s possible because I had a grand aunt who reached 101 years old. She was the most fun, sweetest and kindest grand aunt. She was full of positive vibes. She was the patrol woman in her neighborhood. She would look down from her second floor room, call people on the street and told them what to do or not to do. She was funny. She still makes me smile.
I want to be there for my grandkids and great grandkids. I truly believe that grandparents are very important in the lives of their grandchildren. They are there to love, support and play with the grandkids. I remember my grandma, she would rub my back before I go to sleep; and hum a lullaby song uniquely her own. I still feel the warmth of her love. I felt that my grandma had a mystical presence in my life. She always prayed for her grandchildren and I felt that divine protection. When I was a young adult and lacking maturity, I found putting myself in harms way. For example, I was new in this country and my friend took me to a party. I was dancing with a cute guy whom I just met and he offered to take me home. I told my girlfriend and she said ‘No’. I was so glad that my friend was there. Now I know better. Anyway, I do hope to live a long life to be able to share Life’s Lessons to my grandchildren.
My Life’s Lessons
I SPEND TIME WITH LOVED ONES. I don’t know when they will be gone that’s why I want to create wonderful memories with them while they are with me in this lifetime. I learned this lesson the hard way. A year before my other grandma passed away, there were a number of times she asked me to go with her on a day trip. I had declined those invitations because I was working. I could have taken a day-off. She seemed so healthy; but unexpectedly she had a major stroke. Whenever we visited her in the hospital, she was super sweet and motherly. I felt closer to her more than ever. I thought she would recover but she did not. I was holding her hand when she took her last breath.
I TALK TO MY DEPARTED LOVED ONES. I still feel their presence. I even feel more connected to them. I still miss them. But there comes the day that my heart feels lighter. Of course, that‘s after a lot of copious tears and processing my thoughts and emotions. I don’t rush grieving. I try to be kind and compassionate towards myself.
I SHARE THEIR STORIES. Whenever we celebrate the lives of our departed parents, grandparents and sibling. We talked about the wonderful memories we shared with them. They continue to live in our hearts. They are alive, even more alive.
Life is amazing!